Weddings are a time to celebrate and unfortunately sometimes a source of great stress. The bride and groom must second guess themselves every step of the way, especially when it comes to selecting their bridal party.
How do you select some people without offending others? This is where etiquette becomes a two way street. Those unchosen few must respect your decision and live with it. How do you go about making the final choices? Follow these criteria:
- people who are currently close to you
- people you know you can depend on
- people who will be comforting to you when you need it
- people you know will be in your life for a very long time
- people for whom serving in your wedding party will not be a burden
Extending the Invitation
In these days of cyber space it is so easy to just casually send off an email evite to prospective wedding party members. Pick up the phone instead. Also ask, don't tell.
What if someone says no? Don't take it personal. Obviously, there is something going on with that person that prevents them from being a part of your special day in that way. If they don't offer up an explanation, don't ask and don't try to talk them into it. You must respect their decision.
If money is the issue, tread lightly. You can offer to pay their expenses, but go about it tactfully. If that doesn't go over well, offer them another job as part of the ceremony, maybe a poetry reading.
For those that do accept the invitation to become part of your wedding party, try not to chose the most expensive dress or tuxedo on the market!!!
Until next time, eventfully yours!
